Now my story. My sister and her children are secular Jews who have nothing to do with the reality of this world. They live the upside-down fantasy life that just about 100% of the people on Earth live. I have worked on helping my sister and her family for many years, but I just couldn’t get through.
About three months ago, my sister fell, broke some bones and became immobile. She improved over the weeks, but still required a walker. She realized that she would never be fully recovered. Two weeks ago her daughter arrived at her mother’s apartment to find her on the floor – not able to get up. With the help of a neighbor, my sister was helped and brought to the hospital for examination. She was obviously deteriorating. Last week my niece and nephew who work full-time jobs realized that their mother needed assisted living in a home. When they investigated and found possible places, they saw a cost of about $2,000 a month and realized they were out of options.
Then uncle Menachem stepped in. I called my sister and suggested that she come to live with my wife and me. Much to my big surprise, she agreed. I then told her that she would have to keep Kosher since it is the only possibility here. She said: “I am ready.” I told her that she would have to keep the Sabbath and the holidays and she answered: “I am ready to do it all.” I almost fell off my seat, but when I got off the phone I had such a big smile on my face. Hashem set her up to become completely observant; something that I had struggled with for decades.
The next day my sister was rushed to the hospital with new complications. I talked to the doctor who told me her diaphragm had a big opening in it and that she needed a major operation. There were other problems with some of the organs below the diaphragm. The doctor told me she was very unstable since her heart had stopped for 16 minutes until they were able to revive her. It happened a second time for 6 minutes, also with revival. Friday morning she succumbed to it all, and went on to the next world.
Why is this a happy sad story? My sister did the ultimate Teshuvah, and received her Tikun instantly. Hashem was able to see that if she had lived, she would have made Aliyah and become an observant Jew. Hashem knew there was nothing more for her to gain, so with His infinite mercy, He also knew that she did not need to suffer any more. Her visit to Earth was completely successful, and she went on to her heavenly reward for all eternity. Of course, that heavenly reward will change to a resurrection that will bring her and all our loved ones back to Earth soon with the start of the time of Moshiach and the worldwide redemption. The combination of all her involuntary correction in life (pain, financial problems, marital problems, family problems, etc) and her ultimate Teshuvah “I am ready to be with Hashem and do His will,” gave her the Tikun she deserved. She was always a good person to anyone who came in contact with her, but now she was ready to turn completely to Hashem and complete her goodness on Earth.
One additional aspect that adds more happiness to this sad story. Before I was informed of my sister’s passing, her children believed that they had to take care of all the arrangements. Things like cremation, autopsy, non-Jewish Funeral Home, a non-Jewish cemetery, etc were all possibilities. Everything that I just mentioned is not according to Jewish law and would have been a disaster for my sister. I called my niece and told her I will make all the arrangements from 7,500 miles away. I talked to a local Rabbi, a dear friend of mine who I know came from that area in Michigan, and he told me of a Rabbi in Jerusalem who has a brother-in-law in Michigan who would take care of all the arrangement. About a dozen phone calls later (at about 2 AM my time, when all were finished with Shabbos in the states), it all started to come together.
Welcome to the 21st century. Between many Emails and phone calls, I managed to arrange exactly what I would have done had I been there. The nicest part was the cooperation of my niece and nephew who I managed to convince that their mother was not dead, but just moved on to another address. My sister was counting on us here to do all the things that she no longer could do. I thank Hashem for guiding my niece and nephew to cooperate completely with me. My sister had avoided disaster, and left this world with everything kosher, according to Jewish law, B”H. I don’t have a passport of any kind since the thought of leaving Israel gives me the shivers, so I did not attend the funeral. But I sat Shiva for 7 days with the three prayer services in our apartment. I had about 80 guests visit throughout the week and was comforted greatly. I even had some of my dear readers from this blog visit; that was a real treat for me.
I am sad and miss a sister who I loved dearly; but, I am so happy that she went on to such a beautiful Tikun and later, Olam Haba. She doesn’t need planet Earth anymore, and has found the truest happiness this world has to offer, Hashem. Thank you, Hashem, Your Mercy is infinite.
I have to add: in the 72 ½ years that I knew my sister, we never had an argument or even a disagreement. I am truly blessed to have had such a sibling in my life.
I also want to mention: my sister’s name is Chaya. The week of her funeral was the week of the burial of Sarah in parashat Chaya Sarah. My sister was 77 years young and her one daughter is 50 years of age. They total 127 years, the age of Sarah. More messages from Hashem.
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